Hearts, Flowers & Quiet Gestures

While I’m all for hearts, flowers, love and displays of affection I feel a bit overwhelmed with the amount of it appearing on my social media today. Yes, I’m very well aware that today is Valentine’s Day and yes, I understand it’s a day for over-the-top, yell-it-from-the-mountain-tops, share your love with the world day but I can’t help but stop and wonder why. Why do we have to celebrate today with such gestures? Why can’t we celebrate with quiet moments between those that we care about. I can’t help but wonder what the other 364 days look like for couples that are so much in love, in public, all. the. time. 

My relationship with Jared is one that I value and cherish above any other relationship I have but I don’t openly display it on my social media platforms because it’s ours. Only ours. I don’t want to share it with anyone else. (I’m selfish that way) I realize I share a lot, and I mean a lot, of my life and personality on social media but I choose not to share much about us. That’s because our relationship is something I want to keep just for us. It’s something I’m confident in. It’s something I don’t need to share. I don’t need to put our love on display to be seen by all. I don’t need it to collect likes and loves and thumbs up to know that it’s real. 


Our love is 365 days, 52 weeks a year, no breaks, no stops, always growing and always changing. Our love is laughing until I pee my pants (yea this has happened), playing hide and seek with nerf guns through the house, the first look on our wedding day and 1 AM feedings and diaper changes. Our love is strong and deep. It’s raw, it’s emotional but most importantly it’s real. (I’m not knocking those of you sharing your love on Facebook. Go on and share you love fools!) I’m simply explaining why I chose not to overstate or over share our relationship. 

I get the idea behind today but why can’t we celebrate our relationships each day with our partners. and most of us probably do. Why aren’t we valuing the quiet gestures today though? The open doors, the clean laundry, the third time in a row that my husband gets up in the middle of the night to take care of the baby? Those are the moments to value in a relationship. Those are the things to cherish. Those are the things to keep to yourselves. If you share it all on social media you might as well date Facebook. 😂😂😂 On that note, I’m off to share a few moments with my love and our little tonight. Happy Valentine’s Day!